How to ruin a relationship in 10 months

I'm by far not an expert, but am slowly gaining awareness that relationships are truly not my strength. Some people can sing, others can dance...others can have successful relationships without much effort...she can't. Proof of it, is the situation I'm about to describe and have labeled as the dummies guide to ruining a relationship in 10 months...lol.
Now, as much as it takes two to tango...there's always a side of that tips things over to the point of no return...well, that's her. Let's call her tipper then for practical purposes and call him...just him...lol. And let's not make any mistakes here...this is not a pitty blog but moreso an ode to human differences, relationships and expectations. Amen to people....can't live with them, can't make enough room to hide all the bodies...lol.
Anyway...so once upon a tipper...lol....she met him and was taken...5 minutes later she was rolling around in a bed somewhere with him...with their respective wedding rings and all...oh yeah, tipper was married...and so was he...and not to each other....
Fireworks...magic....and all of the possible mentionable movie sound effects were on when these two decided to finally swap saliva and manually explore each others skin...lol...nice pace...tone...and lots and lots of laughs....
Things began passionately...and they were so comfortable with each other it was almost scary...so naturally they decided to carry on. They'd see each other often, and discuss each others past and present...families...likes...dislikes...secrets and fantasies...and day by day they grew closer. Secretly connecting for an emotional and physical rush....that was always beyond their wildest dreams....questions would unveil their deepest thoughts and wants and desires...
Everything was as perfect as could be...they had met their partner in crime....the other half of their mischevious nature...a confident and friend...a lover...
News of a change in pace threatened to sever the contact, but they were so in sync with each other that they figured out ways to work around it...compromise to maybe less real time...and more distant contact...anything to keep the flames going...and the daily smile visible...
Creatively they managed to go against the odds and see each other....and the intensity grew....from secret meetings in the privacy of a few walls to public strolls on the beach holding hands like teenage sweethearts....and the hunger grew as did the caring....until the emotions reached unexpected levels....what started out as curiousity and attraction was now....a relationship. Daily calls....long hours of sharing all kinds of thoughts....increased risks...they were pursuing each other like there was no tomorrow....
Tipper was overwhelmed and questioned the logic behind it all....investing so much of herself in a friendship that could never be more than that....he was always the optimist....that was convinced that what was....was great enough to be worth it....and that although it would never become the conventional set up most would have thought....that it could still be meaningful as it was....and she agreed...and they went on....
The fear of losing him was far greater than the concern for her emotional wellbeing...and she learned to trust him....to believe that he wouldn't hurt her....they would talk over her thoughts...and concerns...he was pacient and understanding....it was all so new to them....and it worked...
She would change her mind several times a day.....not knowing how to describe what she was feeling or how to handle it....her emotions invested in another man....how innapropriate...and inconvenient...but real, and true...and amazing....they would talk about it....for days...and for months he listened....always with positive insight...an inspiring word....that put her mind at ease...and helped her understand that she wasn't alone in it all....
The days became months....but she would still wonder....and he would begin to hesitate....how many times did he need to tell her how he felt? Why was she still unsure of it all? When would she finally understand that he was already making a huge effort by just being pacient?...
And the patience became frustration and the understanding became anger....and what they were able to communicate....became a different language for them both....
Months had gone by...and she had began expecting....as her feelings for him deepened....
The relationship had progressed...they had both crossed some serious lines....but, at the end of the day....it didn't sound like it had....at all...she expected him to give more emotionally....to verbalize more of his feelings...but he couldn't....she asked him to....explained that she needed him to....but it was against his nature....but she insisted...
She made a mistake....by approaching the relationship as one of the more solid forms of it....after all, they weren't dating...it was just an affair....a friendship with sex at that....but with deep feelings....the lines were blurred and she lost her way....and he couldn't show her the way anymore....and so what had taken minutes to begin...and months to deepen....took a few days to be over....they realized that they wanted different things....and that despite their caring for one another....they were who they were...and would remain that....
She wanted more romance....he wanted things as they were....and they never were able to get it back again....
Thank goodness for honesty though...and what might have taken years and pain to figure out...was clear to the both of them....they weren't right for each other and they might have been looking for something that wasn't really missing in their lives....
So....one rainy afternoon...it ended. And they went on their merry ways....to their committed lives...where expectations are allowed....and feelings are appropriate....and relationships are real....
They say she still thinks about him now and then....and smiles....with a bittersweet taste...of the glory of what was....but can never be....
That....is how you ruin a relationship in 10 months....lol.